One day, the guy you’re getting to know is telling you he likes you, and then the next two weeks pass by without him making much effort to see you. Or maybe your partner says she wants space, but continues to text you daily to make small talk. Mixed signals come in many different forms, but they all come down to the same issue — someone telling you one thing and treating you the complete opposite.
Love is weird and dating is hard. Feelings are already confusing enough, and the addition of someone we like treating us sweetly one day and coldly the next is enough to leave our minds spinning. We go to our friends, angrily shaking our fists at the sky and asking why it all has to be so confusing. But so far, no one seems to know the answer. And I think we all know how easy it is to fall into the trap of blaming yourself when his or her actions toward you are anything but steady. Before you know it, the toxic thoughts begin to consume you!
So what are we supposed to do with these dumbfounding mixed signals? Read further to see what his or her mixed signals could mean and how, ultimately, you are not to blame.
Becoming an adult can be quite daunting and weird. Suddenly, you’re expected to be self-sufficient, have your shit together, and not eat cereal for dinner. Plus, you’re forced to figure out the totally weird predicament of making friends as an adult!
Now it seems like everyone has their social circles solidified and significant others locked down, and making friends is a lot trickier than hitting “accept” on Facebook. Your social life can meander if you don’t make it a priority.
The importance of friendship for our overall happiness is massive. Yet the idea of making new friends and meeting new people can feel like an overwhelmingly complex task. So for those of you who struggle to make friends and meet new people, this helpful guide will give you a breakdown of areas to tackle and hopefully help you realize just how easy making friends can be!
Well, hello lovelies! I hope your May is off to a great start so far. Here on the blog, with the start of a new month, also means a new monthly goal. And boy am I feeling good about this month’s goal!
In case this is your first time here, I decided to set myself a new goal at the beginning of each month for 2017 with the intention to uplift my body, mind and soul in some way or another. But instead of setting multiple goals, I only set one main goal with a list of action steps.
I feel like with one main goal, there’s more focus. They’re easier to commit to and each month offers a fresh new start (especially if the previous month didn’t go quite like I planned . . . ). But just because a new month is starting, doesn’t mean I forget about my goals from the months before.
Inspired by Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project, I set one new goal or intention for myself at the beginning of each month while continuing the goals I set from the previous months.
Growing up, my mom was one of those women who seemed to always have it together: successful business woman, blessed with a green thumb, phenomenal cook and lively hostess . . . She somehow managed to do it all! So this year for Mother’s Day, I want to show her just how much I appreciate everything she’s done for me – from taking me to cheerleading competitions for nine years, to wiping my tears away from a rather dramatic meltdown just last week. She’s seen me at my lowest, most vulnerable times and miraculously loves me anyway!
Since many of y’all are on the prowl for that perfect Mother’s Day gift as well, I’ve rounded up some beautiful gifts that your mom will absolutely love (and you’ll definitely want to borrow).
Scroll down and shop my picks for this year and prepare to make her day. Because if there’s one thing she really loves, it’s a gift that comes from you! From the master of self-care to the gardening lover, I assembled a line up of a few of my favorite Mother’s Day gift ideas to make your mama dearest feel particularly special this Mother’s Day.
Crackling wood in a fiery hearth paired with a hot cup of tea, a knit blanket and watching the snow lightly fall outside. Sounds like a scene in a Christmas movie, right? Well, this snapshot encapsulates the Danish lifestyle trend referred to as hygge. And in the last year, it’s crossed the pond and made it’s way into American interior design.
Roughly translating to ‘cozy’ (but on a much deeper level),hygge — pronounced “hoo-gah” — is all about living a harmonious, happy and relaxing life by indulging in the comfort of home. However, when we think of the word hygge (or type it into Pinterest), things like fuzzy socks and wool blankets and snuggling by the fire come to mind. But just because the snow stops falling doesn’t mean the hygge has to go along with it!
In Denmark, hygge is a yearlong affair! It’s embedded in the Danish culture and their daily lives. And despite the imagery and elements associated with the word, slowing down and genuinely enjoying the moment alone or with those around you is by no means confined to one season.
Most of us want to live in a soothing environment among things that bring us comfort and joy year-round. And hyggeputs a name and an action to those simple desires. During Winter, embracing hygge only seems natural. So how do you honor the hygge concept during the warmer seasons? We may drink hot cocoa in one season and cold beers in another, but the hygge moments always remain. Rebecca Thandi Norman, writer for Scandinavia Standard, says, “When it’s not so cold, spring hygge looks like garden parties with lots of flowers, light colors, and taking shelter from the rain in a cafe.” Here’s a few key ways on how to hygge during the warmer seasons.
Hey there, friend. How has your first week of Spring been?! After the harshness and bitterness of Winter, it’s nice to see the earth come back to life, signaling a fresh, new beginning. It reminds me that, regardless of what happened last season, the next one is an invitation for a clean slate — a fresh start. A new season is a time of pruning and renewal — where you get rid of the meaningless and make space for the fresh and purposeful. That’s why I love Spring Cleaning. It allows you the freedom and space to do just that — clear any clutter that’s in your life.
Clutter can take on many forms — physical, mental, spiritual, relational and social are the main categories. And it’s super important to assess each area of your life, to see where you can clear the clutter, simplify and start anew.
For example, when I was at a place where I was trying to decide how the universe wanted me to pursue my goals and purpose, I was very overwhelmed and confused. To the point where I couldn’t choose which action to take! And it was during this time that I had to get really clear. Clear on my purpose, my goals and how the universe wanted me to go about pursuing them. All while developing myself further into who I wanted to be.
There was so much mental and spiritual clutter that was preventing me from seeing the signs and listening intuitively. So, in order to make sure that I was going in the right direction, I had to clear the clutter!
I share this story to encourage you that Spring Cleaning doesn’t have to be just a time to purge and refresh your physical space. But that you can (and should!) clean any area of your life that you feel like you need to purge, tend to and cultivate into a more balanced space. How are you supposed to have a clean start with all the old dirt still hanging around, right?
As we delve further into the new season, here are five areas to clear the clutter to help Spring Clean your body, mind and soul.
With any discussion of toxic people, it’s important to understand that you can’t change anyone but yourself, so it’s best to stop trying. If you’re in any sort of friendship or relationship with a toxic person, chances are you’ve bending over backwards for while trying to make it work. But the important thing to realize is this: You can only change the things that are open to your influence, and toxic people will never be one of them.
Some of the biggest stressers in life come for the toxic people we surround ourselves with. But today, you can take back control of your life and begin to set yourself up for success. Your friendships need to be a source of happiness and support! Not stress.
I’m not saying that a single fight with your bff means it’s time to call it quits. Every friendship (and relationship for that matter) will be filled with minor disagreements, small spats and even one or two major blowouts. But at the end of the day, a true friend cares for one another and wants what’s best for each other – no matter what.
On the other hand, a toxic friendshipis a one way street – all take and hardly any give. And it’s totally okay to identify these type of people/friends and cut them out of your life. In the a beautiful post on Darling Magazine, Danielle McGuire says, “Many can have a skewed take on what deep friendshipactually means. Somewhere along the way, it’s possible to lose sight of those crucial elements that make up a best friend.”
So today, look at the friendships in your life and identify the people who don’t add value to your life, as well as the ones that do. For the people who don’t add value, here are nine ways you can try to rid yourself of their toxicity.
Falling in love is easy: It happens all across the globe, every minute of every day. Eyes lock across a crowded market, or your pass someone who makes you do a double-take. It’s all too easy to find someone who piques your interest, but finding a someone who is right for you? That’s a little more difficult.
Intimate relationships should always come secondary to your relationship with yourself – and like it or not – will always be directly impacted by how much you love yourself. If you don’t realize you’re a badass babe, you’ll always be looking for someone to complete you or fill in an emotional hole. That doesn’t work . . . Lovers who don’t love themselves individually is a losing game.
You’ll need your partner to prop up your self-esteem (since you can’t do it yourself), or you’ll feel insecure and become convinced your boyfriend is going to leave you for someone else. Maybe because you think you’re unworthy of a great person’s attention, you’ll settle for someone who is kind of a jerk.
Why be in a relationship if it doesn’t make you happier? If it doesn’t make you a better person, why are you wasting your time?
The best relationships happen when you combine two people who have their self-respect on lock. To put it simply, you gotta be in love with your wonderful in order to find a wonderful partner. We can probably agree that happiness is a major goal of being in a relationship with someone else, but the rest of it is up to you! We all have different expectations, whether we learned from watching our parents or we have concluded these expectations on our own.
I can’t tell you what you should be looking for in an ideal relationship. I can talk only about my own desires.
It’s for this reason that I recommend giving this a little thought. Today, I challenge you to sit down and make a list of the thing you want in a partner. This helps you gain some major clarity and perspective. It’s also a great thing to have around when you fall for some fool who isn’t up to scratch. Just look back at your list and see how many criteria your partner fulfills.