Everyone has their own interpretation of what self-love means to them. But on the most general level, self-love has a lot to do with discovering and accepting who we really are. And the more we discover, the more aware we become of certain limiting beliefs we didn’t even know were there.
“There is no doubt that living with limiting beliefs can force you to live a mediocre life that is far away from your true potential,” says M.Farouk Radwan in an article on 2 Know Myself. “And thus learning how to identify and get rid of such self limiting beliefs is the best thing you can do for yourself,” he adds.
But the problem with our limiting beliefs is that they can act like blocks of concrete on your feet holding you in place. However, they seem so real to us that it can be a little difficult to identify whether a deeply rooted belief is a real or limiting one.
That’s the thing about limiting beliefs. They can consume our entire lives without us being even slightly aware of what’s happening. It will sound perfectly reasonable and valid, and you can probably come up with lots of evidence to support it.
Luckily, by becoming aware of our negative self-talk and questioning the validity of certain beliefs, with a little time and patience, we can begin to sniff out those untrue beliefs that have held us back from living our best life.
Keep reading for how you can identify and release your limiting beliefs for good!
Write Down Your Limiting Beliefs
Time to play detective and embody your inner Olivia Benson. Follow your thoughts and emotions to discover all the limiting beliefs that hold you back. Jot them down and stare them right in the face! You might want to rate how strong each belief is on a scale 1-10 (10 being the strongest) and what specific emotions they give rise to.
Question The Belief
Read each statement and ask yourself if you believe it. Write down why you believe each one. Dig deep and identify the source if you can. Even if you’re not totally certain of where the belief came from, write down as much as you can. To really dig deep, try your best to answer these questions:
- When does this belief pop up?
- How does it make me feel/react?
- Is this belief really true?
- Can I pinpoint when this belief came about?
Acknowledge That They Are Only Beliefs
“But, my limitations are real!” I know how you feel . . . but this is where choice comes in. Which sounds more beneficial: defending your limitations to the death or achieving your goals and desires? As author Evelyn Waugh wrote, “When we argue for our limitations, we get to keep them.”
Destroy & Recreate
When you find a limiting belief to be untrue, you’ll need to develop a clear statement that invalidates it. Use your imagination and try on a belief that is aligned with what you want. The trick is to go beyond just saying it. You really want to step into this new belief and feel it completely. Take your time on this step. Create a brand new, positive belief to take the place of each of your old beliefs.
Act as if your new belief is true. In other words, if you really have learned from past financial difficulties, what steps can you take? If you really are confident in your own skin, what does that look like? This will feel uncomfortable and scary because it’s in direct opposition to the blocks you have created and long believed. But it does get easier!
Take time to reflect and seek inner peace. Shift your focus on what’s going on inside of you. Examine your own beliefs to heal old wounds. Make a commitment to increase your awareness every time one of your old beliefs pop up and replace them with the new belief you’ve chosen. We’re in this together babe, and I totally believe in you!
+What limiting beliefs hold you back the most? How have you cut ties with your limiting beliefs in the past? Let me know in the comments below.
Much love & good luck