Have you ever taken a moment to think about what’s working for you as well as what’s not really working? Throughout the day, we have a million thoughts that cloud our decision-making and can oftentimes feel overwhelming. Thus, decisions are made based off the first ones that come to mind, which usually isn’t the best solution. So it’s worth evaluating everything good and bad that’s going on in your life right now to help you see the upside and the downside of your current situation.
I decided to use one of my vision boards to showcase the things that are working for me and the things that aren’t working for me to help me make sense of it all. The board serves as a reminder of why I make certain decisions as well as a guide to figuring out what to do next. It’s an easy way to analyze in what areas I feel like my life is stable and also what areas I could make some improvements.
I want you to make a chart to showcase all the things that are working for you and what’s not so you can make sense of it all. The chart will serve as a reminder of why you’ve made the decisions you have, as well as a guide to figuring out what to do next.
Think of it as “what do I want to say the same” and “what do I want to change.”
The more granular, the better. Instead of listing your job isn’t working for you, consider if it’s your coworkers, the inflexible schedule or long hours? This will help pinpoint the joy or frustration.
Develop an action plan after you’ve made your list. What action steps can you take in order for your working list to grow? When setting actions, look at the upside as well as the downside to think about if those things are working need actions to maintain or enhance them, as well as what needs changing. For example, if your getting to bed too late, what steps do you need to take to help you get to bed earlier?
Don’t Feel Selfish
Focusing on yourself is healthy, and it does not mean that you aren’t keeping other people in mind. For example, living at home is somewhat working for me, but having my dad support me is definitely not. I love my dad, and I am working towards a solution to accommodate both.
Your List Is Very Personal
The list you create will not look like anyone else’s. Working for two hours a night might be working for, but your grocery shopping routine might not. Make sure the things your jot down are true to you.
Your list, like your life, will be ever-changing! And hopefully the more you figure out what’s not working, the more they will move over to what is working.
This exercise can help you find solutions more easily and support your plan of action based on the current reality, and help you move towards the life you want.
+So what’s working for you? Show yourself some love today and identify the things that are absolutely working for you in your life right now. I’d love to know what your lists looks like! Leave some examples in the comments below. And don’t forget to post your journey on Instagram with the hashtag #OCSelfLoveChallenge
Much love & good luck